My Year As Job’s Wife

1 May

“Should we accept only good things from the hand of God and never anything bad?” ~ Job 2:10b


She really is an easy target to criticize. Married to a prosperous, righteous man, she had a life of ease.  No doubt she was the envy of other women.

Then things got really…really bad.

Her ten children were killed at one time. Her husband’s trusted team of servants and valuable herds were destroyed, resulting in financial ruin. And her once strong, influential husband was afflicted with a horrific puss-oozing skin disease. Can you imagine watching your man trying to ease his pain by scraping shards of pottery across his skin? While he sat in ashes.  On top of a pile of trash.

This is Job’s wife. And there wasn’t enough Zoloft in the world to make it better.

Scripture quotes her only once.  And her words and tone are memorable.

“Still holding on to your precious integrity, are you?” she lashes out at Job. “Curse God and be done with it!” (Which translates “so God will kill you and make your misery go away”.)

Wow. That’s some pretty serious stuff right there.

At one time I would have self-righteously wondered why she wasn’t struck by lightning. Or thought she must not have loved God enough. Or prayed enough. Or read the Word enough. Or whatever enough.

 But not today.

One year ago this week Jim and I came under Satan’s attack. We did not lose children, but loved ones died. We did not watch large wealth disappear, but Jim’s livelihood did when he suddenly lost his job. There were no disfiguring diseases, but several family and friends would soon be diagnosed with physical and mental illnesses. 

I went into supportive spouse mode. Denying my own sense of loss to be my husband’s cheerleader, I smiled and pushed through tough days. ‘Cause that’s what a good wife does, right?

Then, tired and emotionally drained, I had my “quote of Biblical proportions” moment. I was angry.  Angry about the pain. Angry our lives had changed. Angry nothing would ever be the same.

What was said will stay between Jim and me. But in that moment I knew…

I had become Job’s wife.  

Grieving loss took me places I never dreamed possible. It played games with my mind and distorted my judgment.  As the days turned to weeks, then to months, I wondered if these trials would ever end.

Surprisingly, it was this much maligned and harshly judged woman, who gave me hope. We aren’t given details, but a close look at the rest of the story gives much comfort.

 No matter how bad it got, she stuck it out.

Stayed with him through his lowest days of rejection, loneliness, and frustraton.

She was faithfully by his side when others abandoned him.

And God restored their lives, blessing them beyond what they could imagine

Distance gives perspective. And one year into this, I can sympathize with Job’s wife. She spoke those earlier words, it seems, not because she was wicked. Or rebellious. Or cruel.  

Because she was real in a raw moment of her life. Someone who didn’t pretend everything would be okay. But was loyal and steadfast and didn’t quit. 

My life is not marked with the suffering Job’s wife endured. But because of where God walked with me the past year, I get her. And I’m thinking you do, too.

Perhaps your marriage has been rocked and you aren’t sure how to respond. Trust God, Who will tenderly care for you through the process. And don’t worry ~ if you cry out in angry pain, He can handle your wrath.  Trust me.

He will be faithful to remind you an action of ugliness does not make you a bad wife.


It’s going the distance in spite of the ugliness that counts.


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21 Responses to “My Year As Job’s Wife”

  1. kara May 1, 2013 at 2:38 pm #

    Great post. I admire your transparency. Awesome pic.

    • Hearts Unfold May 2, 2013 at 1:32 am #

      Love you my friend! Can’t wait to see you tomorrow!

  2. Melanie May 1, 2013 at 2:52 pm #

    This is what Grace looks like. We never deserve anything He gives us.. we are worms, but His righteousness is ours and forever I will shout it from the mountain tops.. We don’t deserve anything yet we are growing into His image as we go through the valleys and He will never let us get stuck there. May we keep pressing into Jesus, our Savior from ourselves. Love you Beth.. glad that season is over for you… Christ in us OUR HOPE and GLORY

    • Hearts Unfold May 2, 2013 at 1:40 am #

      Mel~you make me smile BIG! Grateful for the gift of you and how you have taught me much about embracing a day.

  3. restoringmysoul May 1, 2013 at 3:26 pm #

    This was soooooo good, Beth! Thank you for being vulnerable. This is a perspective I have not thought of before. A much needed read for me today!

    • Hearts Unfold May 2, 2013 at 1:41 am #

      Thank you my friend! Miss seeing you-need to do something about that!

  4. 2b14u May 1, 2013 at 3:40 pm #

    I always wondered why Satan left his wife alone and did not destroy her with the rest of the family. It wasn’t in the deal between Satan and God to spare her, unless the marriage made them one flesh and to harm her would be harming Job. I only see her showing up in this one place with the temptation to stop having faith. You gave me something to think about and chew on.

    • Hearts Unfold May 2, 2013 at 1:43 am #

      Thank you for your reply. Your thoughts on them being as one and her role brings a new dimension to what God has shown me.

  5. Melissa Mason (@winsomsouls) May 1, 2013 at 4:31 pm #

    I’m going to have to PM you on this one. God’s timing is always perfect and this was something I needed to read today and reread a few minutes later. Love you bunches.

    • Hearts Unfold May 2, 2013 at 1:45 am #

      Thank you Melissa-after we traded messages today I have you on my heart even more. You are beautiful, precious, and loved by God!

  6. Sheri Fields May 1, 2013 at 5:54 pm #

    Encouraging message! It can always look good from the outside gazing in. . .but God sees our hearts! Love you sweet lady & thankful for what God is doing in your life. Just coming through the other side myself, I am right there with you. Thankfully God’s love does not depend on us!

    • Hearts Unfold May 2, 2013 at 1:50 am #

      Sheri-those are some encouraging words there, sista! It’s important we look out for and lift up one another. Love looking at your grand kid pics on FB! Yes, I stalk you :).

  7. kay May 1, 2013 at 6:44 pm #

    Oh Beth. Thank you for that timely encouragement.without going into detail this year has drained me as well. With each trial I have been strong and trusted in His love and timing. But April 5 has and is causing me to go to a whole new level. Jeff lost his job as well. We are waiting on Him as to where we go from here. Sadly it doesn’t look like we will be staying here or returning to pcola. I am beginning to struggle with starting over. angry.fearful.frustration and the question Why???? Are what I face emotionally everyday. I too want tobe strong for jeff. This has hit him really hard.please pray for us and tvanks again for your post….

    • Hearts Unfold May 2, 2013 at 1:54 am #

      Oh Kay-I knew about April 5th but had no idea what else you were under. Reading the Gospels and Philippians have been comfort to me. Look for a FB message w/ my cell number so we can chat. Praying!

  8. mldycus May 1, 2013 at 6:57 pm #

    Awesome Beth!!! Transparent-Genuine-Real….I need that in my life.

    • Hearts Unfold May 2, 2013 at 1:58 am #

      I can only hope to shine of Jesus like you do, Michelle! Can’t wait to hear about WBO team!

  9. Stacey May 2, 2013 at 3:54 am #

    Love you!

    • Hearts Unfold May 2, 2013 at 2:43 pm #

      Know what someone told me yesterday? “This blog post is as real and of God as Stacey Paden’s are.” Am I seeing you smile from here? You have a true gift ~ please please keep writing. You bless more people than you could know. Love you.

  10. Denita Williams May 2, 2013 at 4:05 pm #

    Beth – Awesome word for today. Thank you for sharing and encouraging others. Love you!
    Oh, by the way, fab. pic.

    • Hearts Unfold May 2, 2013 at 4:12 pm #

      Love you too and thanks for being a friend who sticks closer than a sister! That pic was early AM at Pcola Beach last summer. It was a glimmer of hope day.

  11. Beth Sharpe June 25, 2013 at 3:37 pm #

    Thank you, Beth
    You r a Blessing from HIM!

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